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Wake Up Refreshed To Fresh Juice (or Waffles), BBC Documentary Sale

There's something for everyone in today's Deadspin Deals. Whether you need to ease the pain of waking up, or just want some waffles, we've got you covered. Don't miss out on a ton of great discounts on BBC documentaries, or the chance to grab the whole A Song of Ice and Fire Set for 20 bucks.


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Even The Chicago Bulls' Security Staff Is Sick Of Joey Crawford's Shit

The Chicago Bulls have set up a kind of text-message hotline that fans can use to hail the assistance of the arena's security team. Reader Dave was at the game between the Bulls and the Wizards last night, and he tried his luck at getting referee Joey Crawford—who made a number of bad calls and whom everyone hates—kicked out of the arena. We'd like to think that the security staff at least gave serious consideration to Dave's request.


Ten Sports We Want To See In A Mall

Apr. 23rd, 2014 07:00 pm
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Ten Sports We Want To See In A Mall

Tonight the Drake Relays will stage the fifth annual Mall Vault, which features the nation's best pole vaulters pole vaulting in a mall. Here are ten other sporting events that we want to see contested in a mall:


About To Become Parental Guidance

Apr. 23rd, 2014 07:00 pm
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Home | Toronto, ON, Canada

(I am visiting my aunt, uncle, and two young cousins. My/their grandmother is also visiting, and we’re all watching a movie when a mild kissing scene comes on.)

Aunt: “I was told this was a kids’ movie!”

Grandmother: “If they keep that up, it will be.”

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For migrants into the European Union from Africa and parts of the Middle East, Italy is a common destination, seen as an easy entry point due to its prime location. As boats filled with migrants desperate for better opportunities close in on Italy, many capsizing before they ever reach shore in the “sea of death,” migrants are often apprehended by law enforcement. Many make their way to the island of Lampedusa, which hosts an immigration processing center filled with squalor and harsh conditions.

“An October investigative report on the Lampedusa holding center by L’Espresso news magazine documented people being made to eat and sleep on the ground, covered only with paper blankets in the freezing weather, children catching head lice, and stray dogs being allowed to wander about, urinating on the refugees’ clothes and luggage,” notes publication ANSAMed.

Sometimes those conditions are even worse than usual, as was revealed with a video showing male migrants being disinfected and hosed down in cold water, over protests that they had already undergone disinfectant treatment, abusive treatment that appalled human rights activists around Europe and the world. This degrading incident was, according to the person who brought the video to the media, par for the course at the facility, where people are treated every three days for scabies — a parasitic infection they acquired at Lampedusa itself, and didn’t bring in with them.

Lampedusa’s mayor even went so far as to compare the privately owned and operated Lampedusa immigration detention facility to a concentration camp, stressing the growing anger about conditions at the site, and by extension, immigration detention facilities across Europe, where people endure conditions like poor lighting, inadequate food and water, lack of access to health care and other indignities. Meanwhile, Italy’s legislature called for an investigation and concrete action plan to address the problems at Lampedusa and prevent the recurrence of such incidents. The rapid public response must undoubtedly be credited to the rapid spread of the video, which forced the government to be accountable for conditions on the Italian island.

Italy, responding to denunciations of conditions at Lampedusa and its handling of migrants previously, had pledged to reform its practices, but as this video shows, little if any progress has been made on this front. The video seems to suggest that the nation made an empty promise, not expecting to be held accountable with hard video evidence showing that it hadn’t come up with a concrete approach to humanely handling the large numbers of immigrants who cross Italy’s borders each year. This incident is shameful for Italy, but also for the European Union in general, as such treatment of detainees is by no means limited to Lampedusa.

Many of those same detainees on Lampedusa were survivors of a shipwreck that claimed the lives of hundreds of migrants, a not uncommon event near the shores of Italy. In describing the conditions they endured along the way to the island, they paint a harrowing tale of abusive smugglers, human traffickers and other criminals involved in the brisk and growing trade in human lives across the Mediterranean. These individuals demand high sums for smuggling people across the water, but aren’t heavily invested in ensuring their charges reach the other side safely. Thus, many migrants were thrust from one nightmare into another.

Human rights advocates note that while Lampedusa’s immigration detention facility is designed to hold around 250 people waiting on the processing of asylum requests, it often holds four to five times as many people, far too many for the facility to accommodate comfortably. The result is extremely unhealthy and dangerous overcrowding that leads to stress, the spread of disease and acutely uncomfortable conditions like lack of beds and severe restrictions on available food. Advocates have repeatedly called for better processing of immigrants and transfers to facilities on the mainland to alleviate overcrowding, but they haven’t been heeded, and their cries are being renewed in the wake of this latest horror.

Will this video be the spark that ignites a serious discussion on the degrading abuse of migrants in the EU? Let’s hope so, though it’s infuriating that it came at such a high cost to human dignity.

But it also raises other uncomfortable questions and issues, for the fact of the matter is that there are white people living undocumented in Italy and the EU in general as well, and we wouldn’t be treated that way. Were I to enter the EU without a visa, were I to overstay a visa, were I to otherwise violate immigration law, I  might be caught up and detained, but I wouldn’t be subjected to dehumanising, horrific abuse. I’d be processed quickly, my deportation would probably move smoothly, I’d have people advocating for me.

I say this not because I’m proud of it — just the opposite, in fact — but because it’s a fact. It’s a gross, glaring, foul fact that needs to be confronted head-on. Imperialism and racism are alive and well in the EU, where some migrants are determined to be more valuable than others, where some are persecuted and abused and treated like garbage, where others are given relatively lenient and friendly treatment.

No one should endure conditions like those at Lampedusa. Everyone should be able to access the same level of care, respect, and honour that I would get as a white person. Because it shouldn’t be about the colour of the detainee’s skin, or the nationality of origin, but the fact that the detainee is a human being. Whether immigration detention and strict anti-immigrant policies should be a thing at all is very much debatable (notable here too is the fact that as a white person I’d have an easier time securing permission to live legally in the EU), but one thing though be up for debate: all people deserve to be treated humanely.

I owe much of this piece to Flavia Dzodan, who initially alerted me to the Lampedusa video.

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(That would be me.)

If you make an appointment, or in any way need to save a date, do not simply mention it to me in passing and expect me to remember to add it to the calendar the next time I'm at my computer.

Because maybe I'll remember it, and maybe I won't.

Give it to me in written form. On a piece of paper, if that's what you've got handy. Or in an e-mail, which would be even better. But if it isn't written down somewhere, it isn't real.

Got that?

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The Confidence Code book coverJessica has a good piece in The Guardian today on the gender confidence gap and the new book The Confidence Code which “argues that what’s truly holding women back is their own self-doubt.” As Amanda Hess has noted, this book is part of a genre that’s enjoying popularity right now — one that she describes as teaching women how “you, too, can become a successful blowhard.”

As Amanda notes, it’s worth questioning if we really want to be imitating the attributes of overconfident high-achievers. And it’s also debatable if that’ll even work. The confidence gap, Jessica argues, is a reflection of a culture that gives women no reason to feel self-assured.” So you can “fake it ’til you make it” all you want, but real change won’t come until the culture shifts.

In girlhood, starkly-divided toy aisles teach us that engineering, electronics and science toys are for boys, that the futures for which we should be preparing are those of the Barbie Dream House variety. Adolescent girls – especially girls of color – are given less teacher attention in the classroom than their male peers. A full 56% of female students report being sexually harassed. Sexual assault on college campuses is rampant and goes largely unpunished, women can barely walk down the street without fear of harassment, and we make up the majority of American adults in poverty.

The truth is, if you’re not insecure, you’re not paying attention. Women’s lack of confidence could actually just be a keen understanding of just how little American society values them.

While encouraging women to have more self-esteem is not a bad idea generally, there’s no evidence that being more assertive will change the way women are perceived in the workplace. Confident women at work are still labeled ”bossy” and “bitchy”, to their own detriment – unless they can “turn it off”. And despite all the gains women have made, most Americans – men and women – would still prefer a male boss. While Kay and Shipman give a nod to ambitious women who are judged more harshly than their male peers, they seem to have no solution – other than putting the onus on women to change.

For example, when Kay and Shipman talked to young women participating in Running Start – an organization that trains college-aged women to run for public office – they heard from one woman worried about being labeled a “bitch” if she was too assertive. Another spoke up about the difference between going to an all-girls school – where everyone raised her hand – and her current school, where women didn’t speak up in class.

Kay and Shipman’s response is to bemoan “what a waste of energy and talent all this agonizing can be”. But where they see agonizing, I see identifying discrimination – a first step in taking action to end sexism. In the 1970s, this kind of consciousness-raising sparked a new wave of feminism. Now, decades later, women are perplexingly being advised to turn inward to solve external problems.

I think that last point is really key. As we discussed during the whole Ban Bossy debate, instilling more confidence and leadership skills in women and girls is good. It only becomes a problem if we pretend that these individual empowerment efforts are all it takes to end gender inequality. So yes, go ahead and work hard to try to unlearn the self-doubt instilled by a sexist society — but, far more importantly, talk about that shit. With everyone, all the time, until it stops being so hard.

Maya DusenberyMaya still finds it easier to speak up in class on the internet.

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I fear that I’m about to wade into all kinds of messy territory, but alas, that is the work of feminist critical thinking. This morning I came across a Slate piece by Reihan Salam about why expressing a same-race preference on dating websites is racist. I beg to differ. Salam’s main argument comes down to this:

“There are good reasons to question the moral appropriateness of strong same-race preferences and their close cousin, in-group favoritism. In The American Non-Dilemma, Nancy DiTomaso argues that persistent racial inequality in the United States is not solely or even primarily a reflection of racism and discrimination. Rather, it reflects the fact that whites tend to help other whites without ever discriminating against or behaving cruelly toward blacks and other nonwhites. As long as whites tend to dominate prestigious occupations, and as long as they control access to valuable social resources like access to good schools, the fact that whites, like all people, will do more to help family, friends, and acquaintances than strangers will tend to entrench racial inequality, provided that white people choose to associate primarily with other whites. DiTomaso observes that while Americans place very high value on the idea of equal opportunity, virtually all of us seek ‘unequal opportunity’ in our own lives by leveraging our intimate relationships to achieve our goals, including our professional goals. Yet most of us don’t see the help of family and friends as an unfair leg up. This kind of ‘opportunity hoarding’ is accepted as par for the course.”

Interracial dating is not the ultimate manifestation of an anti-racist society, nor is it a walk in the park for the people in those relationships. For those who want to date outside of their race, it can mean damaging relationships with their families, becoming a target for discrimination, or being asked ridiculous questions like these. And in case some of you are thinking, “They shouldn’t  let the ‘racist’ actions and ides of others stand in the way of their diversity-tolerance-and-unity-building love,” I’m here to politely remind you that this isn’t Romeo and Juliet. These are people’s lives. I’m not sure about you, but if I knew dating a white girl would be grounds for me to lose my job or get kicked out of the house, I’d go ahead and pick from another dating pool. I’ll take “bills paid and a roof over my head” for $800, Alex. 

The situations I note above are extreme examples of negative outcomes from being in interracial relationships and involve the discomfort and disapproval of outside parties. But there are valid reasons for wanting a partner that shares your racial background. Relationships are personal. They are informed — and sometimes regulated — by politics, but they are also often special and meaningful in our lives. For me, just a few of those reasons are:

  1. It is important for me to share certain cultural experiences with my partner that are specific to Black communities. This is particularly important living in the United States, where your race absolutely dictates the experience that you have here.
  2. Dating a Black girl does not erase internalized racism and sexism, and those biases can still permeate relationships. I face enough micro-aggressions throughout the day, I definitely don’t want to have to deal with them in my relationship.
  3. Part of my personal (spiritual and political) growth has involved embracing Black love in all of its forms. In my specific case, dating within my own race is doing anti-racist work.

Throughout the article its unclear whether Salam has more of a problem with people preferring to date within their own race or the fact that they are willing to admit it publicly. I find myself questioning why that distinction matters. The question isn’t: “Are you adamantly opposed to dating people of the following races?” — which I agree would be kind of racist. Admitting that you are more comfortable dating within your own race is being very vulnerable and honest about what you are looking for in a partner. Furthermore, if an unwillingness to date outside of your race is the cause of “in-group favoritism,” lying about it on your online dating profile is hardly the solution. Nor does it make for a very fulfilling relationship.

It is also worth mentioning that there is a difference between a white man only dating within his race and say…me, a black queer feminist woman. On the one hand, his preferences just so happen to reinforce the devaluing black beauty in favor of that of white women in our racist, sexist society. I, on the other hand, am intentionally reclaiming and celebrating black beauty, which is a subversive act in the context of that same society.

Ultimately, Salam agrees that there is plenty that we can do to break down the social and economic barriers that marginalize communities of color besides interracial dating. He points a dissertation from the philosopher Nathaniel Adam Tobias Coleman called ”The Duty to Miscegenate,” which emphasizes inter-dining.

“Despite the title of his dissertation, Coleman does not see intermarriage as a solution, as ‘the production of cross-caste children has proved unreliable in giving rise to cross-caste commonality.’ Rather, he emphasizes the importance of routinely putting members of different castes on an equal deliberative footing by encouraging the sharing of cross-caste meals, or ‘inter-dining.’ Eating together can serve as a solid basis for companionship, a word that is itself rooted in the sharing of bread. The rural white Southerner who dines with nonwhites as a matter of course is doing more to tackle stigma than the urbane white hipster who hardly ever does the same.”

I agree with Salam that we should be a little reflective about our personal choices in dating. We have all internalized prejudices about people who are different from us, not just along race lines. But it’s ok if that reflection doesn’t leave you with a case of jungle fever. We all — white people who “voted the right way” included — resist racism in the ways we can and that doesn’t have to mean enacting an equal opportunity policy in our love lives.

Avatar Image Sesali answered yes to that question on OKC and that didn’t stop a whole army of white dudes from messaging her.

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Apr. 23rd, 2014 03:15 pm
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I was going to write a response to the response to the response to the Hugo announcements, but screw that. Cishet white dudes have chewed up enough of my emotional bandwidth this week.

Wiscon, new schedule! )

And because this week hasn't had anywhere near enough good things in it:

A photo of Siddig El Fadil giving the prettiest shy smile ever )

Putting The T Into Hipster

Apr. 23rd, 2014 07:00 pm
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(A coworker friend of mine and I are taking a break and talking about the show ‘Breaking Bad’)

Me: “Yeah. I used to really watch the first season pretty religiously, before it got all the press and the hype.”

Coworker: “What a little hipster! All you need are some glasses and a Chai Tea.”

(I turn around and put on my glasses.)

Me: “Better?”

Coworker: “Ha! Now you’re just missing your cup of tea.”

Me: “Well, I already drank it. You know, before it got cool.”

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Store-Bought Flavored Vodka Is Abominable. Make Your Own.

Despite what the liquor snobs'll tell you, vodka's always fine, and sometimes it's downright necessary. When you're dealing with a top-flight mixer such as fresh grapefruit juice or your own proprietary Bloody Mary blend (Spicy Hot V8 with a Bacos rim? You tricky devil!), you don't always want to gum up the works with a more ambitious booze.


What’s Cooking In That Brain Of His

Apr. 23rd, 2014 06:00 pm
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(I’ve taken my nephew out for the day, and while we had a busy day he finally sat for a moment next to me, looking pleased with the world. I’m on the big side.)

Nephew: “You know what? If I was at a deserted island, I would wish to be there with [Cousin] and you. [Cousin] because of the fun and the fact she is a nurse and you for cooking.”

Me: “So, I’m no fun then?”

Nephew: *slightly embarrassed* “Well, a bit for the love, too. But mainly for cooking. When we are out of food, you can heat the pan on the fire. When it is hot, [Cousin] and me will shove you in.”

(I was a bit flabbergasted and he was sitting there looking very pleased with himself. He was most severely punished with a visit from the tickle monster.)

Being Sweet When You’re Sixteen

Apr. 23rd, 2014 06:00 pm
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(I am just turning 16. I am extremely introverted, terrified of public embarrassment, and going to a birthday dinner with my mother who is the exact opposite. The server comes to take our drink order…)


Server: “Oh? How old?”

Me: *shrinking into my seat somewhat* “… 16.”

Server: “Wonderful. I’ll put the drink order in and be right back.”

(The server leaves to do just that, I spend the whole time she’s gone terrified she’s going to bring everyone over. Instead, when she returns, it’s just her. She sits down in the booth next to me.)

Server: “I remember when I turned 16. My parents took me out for my birthday dinner and had everyone in the restaurant pulled over to sing happy birthday for me. It was the most mortifying experience of my life. I think at 16 you’re old enough to decide for yourself - do you want me to have everyone sing happy birthday for you? Because I will totally go get them if you want.”

Me: “Please, no.”

Server: “You got it. Happy birthday.”

(My mom just laughed at the whole exchange and didn’t press the issue, and the dinner was passed in peaceful quiet. While I can’t remember how much my mom tipped her, I do know it was at least as much as we spent on food, and I have never forgotten that kindness!)

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Terry Stotts, Reinvented: How A Retread NBA Coach Became Cutting Edge

Players get better, and players get worse. This is a fundamental truth, and an arc we've always understood, analytics or not, as part of the fabric of not just sports, but performance and ability in general. Sometimes you get better at your job, sometimes you fall off. But we don't really look at coaches in this way; coaches are immutable—Mike Woodson coaches ISO-ball, Phil Jackson coaches winners, Mike D'Antoni coaches offense and wears a Pringles mustache. They are what they are, and what they are is what they will be. They're either cut out for the profession or they're not. But if this is true, then how do we explain Terry Stotts?


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Phil Coke Serves Up A Home Run And A Fantastic Quote

The Tigers bullpen has not been good. So after Phil Coke came on in the ninth with a five-run lead and gave up a home run to Adam Dunn to cut the lead to two, there was little to do but laugh about the fateful pitch that tailed back over the plate.


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Rare Photos Of Wrigley's Scoreboard Mark Its 100th Anniversary

[A view of the field from inside Wrigley Field's iconic scoreboard during a baseball game between Pittsburgh Pirates and Chicago Cubs. With Boston's Fenway Park and Wrigley the only two stadiums in the majors with primary manual scoreboards, it has been a job largely shrouded in mystery until the Cubs allowed The Associated Press climb the steel ladder through the steel floor of the scoreboard for a rare visit to mark Wrigley's 100-year anniversary. AP Photo/Kiichiro Sato.]



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