I gather that there's a backlash against trigger warnings going on. Rather than continue to have this argument every time someone I know posts a link about how obviously evil and stupid trigger warnings are, I'm just going to post my own statement here, so I can point to it later.
My own use of trigger warnings is in line with what I was always told was the point of them: letting people know ahead of time that there's something there that might be incredibly upsetting to them if they ran into it by surprise. When I post a trigger warning, I'm certainly not telling anyone to avoid reading what I'm linking to; I'm pretty sure that people read triggery stuff all the time, even after being warned. The warning is a friendly and sympathetic just-so-you'll-know, not a Keep Out sign.
Example from the other direction: Sometimes when I'm reading stuff online, I'm in a mental space where I'm fine with reading about (for example) people's parents being murdered. But sometimes (even though I don't have PTSD or flashbacks) I'm not in a space where I'm okay with reading about that kind of thing; and when I'm not, I'm glad when friends of mine look out for me by letting me know that there's a landmine ahead. That way I can come back to it later (if I want to) when I'm feeling stronger.
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"Arirang" (Hangul: 아리랑) is arguably the most famous Korean folk song. Indeed, "Arirang" is so well-known that it is often considered to be Korea's unofficial national anthem. Yet no one is sure when the song arose nor what the title means.
Here is one version of the song (there are many variants):
Arirang, arirang, arariyo.
Arirang, crossing over the hill,
My dear who has abandoned and left me
Has not even traveled ten miles before having feet pains.
We see that it describes the difficulties experienced by the protagonist while going over a mountain pass. That's not much to rely on if we're going to use internal evidence to determine the meaning of "arirang", particularly since nearly half of all the words in the song consist of nothing more than "arirang" or a slight variation thereon.
There are hundreds of theories of the origin and meaning of "arirang". In "What Does Arirang Mean? The Theories on the Etymology of Arirang" (5/24/15), the author examines nine of the theories, which ascribe the song's origin to dates ranging from the first c. BC to the late nineteenth century AD and which contend that the title is based on the personal name of two different heroines, that it means "I Part from My Dear", that it means "Our Escape Is Difficult", that it means "My Ears Become Deaf", that it means "Mute and Deaf", that it is a Classical Chinese onomatopoeic expression signifying the grunts of laborers, that it signifies "Russia, America, Japan, and England" (!), or that it is the name of a hill. The phonological transformations that are required to get from many of these terms and expressions to "arirang", quite frankly, require considerable imagination.
A conspicuous feature of all nine of the theories (out of hundreds of possible conjectures) presented by the author of this blog post is that they all focus on the Chinese characters, terms, and phrases from which they allegedly derive.
This post appears on the blog of Kuiwon / 歸源 / 귀원, the pen name of a Korean-American who reads Classical Chinese texts as a hobby. The main purpose of his blog is to present translations of Chinese works written by Korean authors. His pen name, Kuiwon / 歸源 / 귀원, is a giveaway, since, in Classical Chinese, it means "returning to the source".
The author's orientation is made all the clearer in his conclusion:
Arirang is by any measure a unique and integral part of the Korean cultural patrimony. One reason why it is so popular is that it seems to be an expression of “pure” Korean culture. For that very reason, the song plays well to the tendencies unfortunately held by many Koreans today: (i) that only the “pure” parts of the Korean cultural patrimony are worth preserving to the neglect of others and (ii) that Korean culture ought to be portrayed as wholly distinct from its neighbors. In particular, many who hold such notions often like to minimize sinitic influences on Korean culture and portray them as being limited to the upper crust of previous generations of Koreans. This attitude, however, is certainly regrettable and would be amiss even with Arirang. Indeed, most of the more accepted, conventional theories on the song’s etymology point to Sino-Korean or Classical Chinese. These explanations, though hypotheses, demonstrate that Korean cultural patrimony without its sinitic elements would paint an incomplete and hollow picture of the Korean experience throughout the ages.
It would be interesting to hear from readers who may be aware of different theories about the origins of the word "arirang", especially those which are not linked to Sino-Korean morphemes.
Whatever it means and whatever its origins, "arirang" is hugely evocative.
[h/t Michael Rank]
A BBC piece by Mark Gwynn begins:
In 2013, ‘selfie’ became Oxford Dictionaries’ word of the year.
It’s become such a ubiquitous word, but few stop to think about where it came from. It may come as a surprise to learn that is has its origins in Australia: the first evidence of the word in use comes from an online forum entry by the Australian Nathan Hope, who posted a photo of his lip, which he says he cut while drinking at a mate’s 21st birthday party.
It certainly came as a surprise to me! Of course, it makes sense, as Gwynn says:
For most Australian English speakers, the ‘-ie’ suffix is a natural part of the language. Unlike similar diminutives in international English, for example ‘birdie’ or ‘doggie’, the ‘-ie’ suffix in Australian English serves as a marker of informality – providing speakers with a shared code of familiarity and solidarity. Australian English is replete with such words: ‘barbie’ (a barbecue), ‘mushie’ (a mushroom), ‘prezzie’ (a present), and ‘sunnies’ (sunglasses) to name just a few. [...]
The Australian penchant for abbreviating words is also demonstrated by the use of the ‘-o’ suffix. In Australian English an ‘ambo’ is an ambulance officer, a ‘reffo’ is a refugee, and a ‘rello’ is a relative. A number of these types of abbreviations have made their way into global English including ‘demo’ (a demonstration), ‘muso’ (a musician), and ‘preggo’ (pregnant). Other abbreviations, including ‘perv’ (a sexual pervert) and ‘uni’ (university), have also migrated to global English. [...]
As with other varieties of English around the world, Australian English has its fair share of idioms and phrases that are often unfathomable to the non-native speaker. This is certainly true of idioms including ‘to carry on like a pork chop’ (to behave foolishly; to make a fuss), ‘to chuck a sickie’ (to take a day’s sick leave from work – with the implication that the person is not really ill), and ‘to spit the dummy’ (to lose one’s temper).
Lots more interesting stuff in there; thanks, Bathrobe!
It’s always a bit hard to tell with a young talker, because there’s word-words and there’s things that sounded like words but that are never used again, so how would we know.
But I am pretty sure of:
“Ta”: give me that/thank you for giving me that/please play a game where we pass this object back and forth saying “ta” and laughing.
“Mo mo moah?”: more more more.
It’s time for the monthly-ish post where we answer the things that people typed into search engines as if they are questions.
1. “Captain Awkward help my boyfriend keeps trying to optimise me.
Eff that dude. He’s not your Pygmalion and you are not a project.
2. “How should you act when you see your former affair and his wife in public?”
Give him a “hey, ‘sup bro?” nod and keep on walking/don’t stop to talk to them. You’re not going to be successful at pretending you don’t know him (hence the nod), but let him be the one to scramble for explanations about how y’all know each other. If you don’t engage at all it makes it less likely that you’ll have to lie to some poor woman’s face.
3. “How do I tell my husband I’m sick of him playing games on his phone?”
In all seriousness, I think it’s a good idea to make mealtimes and certain other times gadget/screen free, and I think you can ask him outright. to do that.
4. “What to do when your boyfriend’s ex wants him back.”
Ignore the ex to the extent that you can and don’t engage with them if you can help it. In my experience, this is almost always a partner problem more than it is an ex problem, as in, the ex can want all they want, but how your partner treats you is everything.
5. “What to do when every time I go out side my neighbour tells me all her troubles.”
Awkward. Give it like, 2 minutes, and then deploy some scripts:
1) “Hey, good to see you, but I actually don’t have time to talk today.”
2) “Hey, nice to see you, but I came out here to get a bit of quiet. We can catch up another time, maybe.”
3) If you’re like me, and you always carry a book, “Hi! I’m in a really exciting part of my book and I’ve been waiting all day to read it. I’ll have to catch up with you another time, thanks.” Pull out book.
Your neighbor will likely never get the hint, so you’ll have to ask. Prepare for sighing and harrumphing. If she makes a big show of avoiding you, be magnanimous – you’ve won! If she gives you some space, once a week, maybe just hang out with her for 10 minutes and ask about her day to show her that boundaries don’t mean y’all are enemies. If she doesn’t give you space, get more terse. “When I said I wasn’t in the mood to talk, I really meant it. Good night!”
6. “All our neighbors don’t talk to us.”
Maybe your neighbors just aren’t your people*? Try finding friends and a social life elsewhere?
My other question is, do you talk to them? Could you find the friendliest-seeming person and bake them a cake or something to break the ice? Give it some time and see if it gets better.
*”Aren’t your people” *could* mean “you have unwittingly moved to a racist, homophobic, and sexist hellscape.” Sorry, that’s a real thing, and it sucks.
7. “Just because he’s my boss should he not act on his feelings about me?”
Pretty much, bosses should not try to date or seduce or romance their employees and should look to, I dunno, literally anyone else.
8. “4 dates means he must like me.”
Sadly, that’s not a guarantee, though the possibility is there. In a new dating relationship, look to the present tense. What are things like between you now? Does he demonstrate that he likes you? Do you like him? Is it easy to make plans?
9. “He’s ignoring my Facebook messages.”
Stop sending Facebook messages and see if he contacts you.
10. “How to know if a girl loves you secretly from long distance?”
Ask her? She has the universe’s sole monopoly on the information you want.
12. “What does it mean when a boy suddenly message me saying sorry to be blunt but do you like me yes or no.”
Most likely explanation: 1) The boy likes you and is trying to make it known 2) Y’all are in middle school.
You don’t have to answer right away if you need time to make up your mind. “I’m thinking about it. Why do you want to know?” is a perfectly good answer.
13. “Having trouble accepting that my adult married daughter is gay.”
The best thing you can do is to realize that she was always gay. It’s a fact, not something that needs your acceptance in order to be true, but if you want to keep having a relationship with her you need to do the work. Please be a good person about this, educate yourself, tell your daughter you love her, and don’t make her sexuality an issue between the two of you.
14. “A guy told me my messages creep him out what does that mean.”
Bluntly: Stop sending that guy messages. He doesn’t like them.
15. “Comebacks for people gaslighting you.”
In my estimation, no one is topping this lady who figured out her boyfriend was gaslighting her and then made him watch Gaslight. My heroine.
The key with gaslighters is not comebacks, it’s to get yourself out of proximity to them and in proximity to good people who treat you well.
16. “My boyfriend wants to move in together but I don’t.”
Listen to and believe that voice that is telling you that you don’t want to live with him. Maybe it’s that you don’t want to live with him yet, maybe it’s that you don’t want to live with him ever, maybe there is a fixable problem that you can work on together, and maybe it’s not fixable. Whatever it is, sit with it quietly, write about it, talk to trusted people about it, talk to your boyfriend about it, but don’t discount it.
17. “He’s mean to me, rude to me and doesn’t care about my feelings. What does it mean?”
It means: Get this dude out of your life forever.
The thing it reminded me of the most was an old-school series from the comic compendium 2000AD. It had that kind of simple storytelling, with decent-but-simple dialogue, violent-but-not-upsetting action, and plots that hint at a deeper world without stopping to infodump, along with gorgeous visual shots that frame both the action and the characters and tie the narrative together. The overall plot of ( really minor spoilers ) could have come from something like Slaine really easily.
I was completely unsurprised to discover that Brendan McCarthy was heavily involved.
I was intrigued by the discussions ahead of time about the purported feminism of the movie, and by various people's reactions to it. ( Minor spoilers, more for the shape of the plot than anything else. ) So I can understand why some people failed to spot that the film is feminist* purely in that it puts a bunch of women into a plot, working with men in order to improve their situation, but given the state of representation of women in movies just doing that is clearly enough to piss off a lot of deeply unpleasant people.
In any case - gorgeous, well written, fun, and basically two hours of car chases and explosions. Recommended.
*It's like failing to spot that Lord Of The Rings is pro-royalist. It's so ingrained in people, fantasy plot-wise, that The True King can fix things by accepting his role, that they fail to spot how barkingly odd that kind of thinking is in the real world. Very few people argue that what we _really_ need to do in order to bring happiness to the UK is for Charles to get a grip, grab the reigns of power, and apply his natural kingly instincts to our once bounteous land.
I actually hope I matched to be remixed in Narnia and not in Weiss Kreuz. I feel like my Weiss stories have been very thoroughly picked over, so that someone might have a hard time finding a story they liked that hadn't been remixed already. I wouldn't mind a second remix of the same story, of course. If there's one thing I know about Remix, it's that no two people write the same story, not even when they start from the same point. But there were only two or three people offering to remix Weiss Kreuz, and they're likely to be people who've remixed my work before. I'd think they'd want a different challenge.
Janet Sears; close friend in my early newspaper days. Sweet-faced, wryly-sardonic woman whose laugh I can still hear, as she nursed me through a broken heart, as we shared musical tastes and made fun of the men who broke our hearts. Janet'sweetness concealed a tough determination to control her life, which came in handy, because her life was a tough ride. Died of cervical/ovarian cancer in the late 1990s. I kind of loved her, and I miss her.
Mary McAndrew: newswoman extraordinaire, poker player, sardonic to the point of being frightening. How amazing was she? This amazing. I'll always be grateful to her for introducing me to percogesic, an amazingly effective over-the-counter anti-headache medicine, which no longer exists. Died of cancer in 1999. I respected the hell out of her, and I liked her and I miss her.
Ed Sunden: unforgettable, unbearable and unbearably wonderful. Brilliant, over-the-top, horrid and lovely, sometimes at the same time. Gun lover, deer-hunter, non-stop smoker, beer drinker, tequila consumer, inveterate prankster, nonstop in every sense of the word. I met him at Suncon, the 1977 World Science Fiction Convention. SF fan, friends with some of the most amazing people, one of whom was my Best Beloved, to whom he introduced me. He changed my world. Died of an apparent aneurysm while sitting down to work, Dec. 6, 2000. I loved him, and I miss him.
Rona Malk: nurse and educator, mother, brilliant - yes another one whose intellect glittered - and occasionally dangerous. Joined Ed in making nights at our favorite bars an unpredictable adventure. Wanted a family, and found it when she fell in love with her husband, and had two children with him. Died of cancer in 2001. She made me laugh and think. I liked her, and I miss her.
William Cardwell Routliffe:absent father, bon vivant, convivial train-wreck, whose live lurched and stumbled because of alcohol, but who always got back up. Maker of friends, teller of tales, a man who knew his life wasn't what it could have been, but loved it nonetheless. Died following a stroke on January 26, 2009. I didn't know him nearly enough, but I think I loved him, and I miss him.
Nick Katz: my first friend at Pioneer Press. Incredible reporter, long-ago blues guitarist, purveyor of the darkest, blackest of humors, one-time romantic idealist turned wounded cynic. Lover of cooking, to a near-chef level of talent. Detective noir fan. He babysat my son when FB was a little guy. He was an amazing, wonderful friend, and a vastly talented individual, who, at the end, hated everything about his job and his life, but he kept going. I wanted so much for him to be happy. Died of a possible heart attack or maybe an aneurysm on May 11, 2013. I miss him very much.
Mary Glen Keirstead Routliffe Stirling: my mother. This is how amazing she was. I can't begin to say how much I love her. Died after a year's fight against cancer that wasn't found nearly early enough. I miss her like crazy, and I still like to talk to her.
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